How I finally found my sweetheart. (+ last chance for Mondo Beyondo discounted rate!)

When I had an astrological reading with Virginia Bell last fall, I couldn’t wait for this 2019 year to start. This is your year! She told me. This is the time when the pieces come together. You’re going to finally make real all of the things you have been working so hard to create. Well halle-freaking-lujah! I thought. I was especially hopeful when it came to finding my sweetheart. 

After online dating for more than four years, I was getting, shall we say, fatigued with the process. At first all of the new people and adventures was exciting. It was fun to be out in the world again and be in this alternate universe outside of my mama duties. I would text girlfriends who were tracking me on first dates (I’m on a boat! I’m on a dairy farm! I’m at a watsu party where everyone is naked!) Even the terrible dates were great story material and helped me understand (by contrast) what I wanted and didn’t want in a partner.

I likened it to the process I went through in finding the right home after my divorce. It required that I go in and see a lot of houses to understand what my non-negotiables were. Did I want hardwood floors or carpet? Was a bathtub a must? Sometimes I would walk into a house and just know – I can’t write here. And so I wouldn’t apply.

After a while though, I found myself applying for super crappy apartments (ones that would have been much to small for me and my boys) out of sheer desperation and fear that I couldn’t actually have what I truly wanted. When I wouldn’t get the crappy apartment I would feel disappointed (even though I was clearly being protected by some greater force) Ultimately, I had to remind myself that I knew what a full yes felt like in my body. And I knew that when I felt that full yes for a home, it would be the right fit.

Finding home in another person turned out to be a similar pursuit. I pursued a lot of crappy apartments in the land of online dating too! 😉 And watched myself on that rollercoaster of hopefulness and excitement and then the inevitable plummet… The questions were also similar – Was I worthy of having just what I wanted? Was I supposed to not be so “picky” and just settle for something good? Could I be with the pain of not being chosen? Could I learn to set boundaries and assert my needs and desires?

Last December, I had my yearly reading with the psychic medium I have been consulting for years. For the very first time in four years she said, “You have a long term agreement coming in!” (This is her term for a long term relationship) My heart leapt. “I really like him Andrea. Super high vibration, an incredible communicator, really evolved, been doing his work for a long time.”

Then she started to describe him physically. He’s got dark wavy hair, he’s wearing it short right now, although he’s worn it long in the past, a prominent M in his name… “Let’s wake up this connection!” she exclaimed.

Five days later was Christmas eve. This is a notoriously hard week for me. The boys are with Matt and his family and I always forget the sting that Christmas morning brings. I imagine them bounding down the stairs to open gifts and I am far away… So I texted my friend Laurie. “Lonely Jew! Nowhere to go on Xmas eve!” She immediately texted back, “Oh my gosh, join me and Mark and the girls!”

Jesse wasn’t supposed to be there. But when Mark heard that I was coming, he and Laurie got to thinking. What would happen if we put Andrea and Jesse in a room together?

Well friends. You know where this story is going.

We chatted. We flirted a bit. I was immediately attracted to him.

At some point Mark sat next to me and said, What do you think of my friend Jesse? He’s an amazing communicator, super self-reflective… same words the psychic used to describe him. I looked over at Jesse, at his wavy dark hair and got chills. 

This photo is my favorite of us, mostly because it shows my utter delight for this man. The relationship has had its complexities like any other, but we’ve had an unhesitating yes for each other from the beginning. For a long time we joked that we were high on resonance and low on content, because the feelings we had for each other were so deep and yet (with our complex parenting schedules) we had barely gone on many dates.

I could tell you many things about Jesse. I could tell you what an amazing dad he is and how much I learn from him as a parent. I could tell you about his playfulness and his wildness. I could tell you about the magic he makes in the kitchen and what a fierce advocate he is for those he loves and causes he believes in. I could tell you about the other night, when I was having an allergic reaction and my face was burning, how he carved up chilled watermelon rinds and placed them carefully on my face. 😉 I could tell you that it feels safe to tell him any truth, no matter how hard.

That full yes I was waiting for in a home? It happened when I walked into my dreamy little treehouse in the woods. I gasped when I walked in and said to the woman showing me the place, “Do I get to have this?” “Yes! She exclaimed. “What else do you want?”

We know what that full yes feels like in our body. It’s expansive, it’s uplifting, it’s like oxygen. Jesse feels like that to me every time we’re together. He is my full yes. 

We get to have what we want sweet friends. 

What do you want most? 

Guess what? You get to have this. What else do you want?

Class begins, Monday, September 16th, 2019

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My Mondo Beyondo dream (come true) this year.


Last year I spent time at the most amazing retreat center in the Santa Cruz Mountains – 1440 Multiversity! I was there to hang out with my friends Kelly Rae Roberts + Beth Kempton who were teaching a creative business workshop that week. As I participated in their workshop, ate the most glorious food and soaked in a giant infinity tub overlooking a sea of redwoods I started to wonder how I could spend more time in this place!

During the week I also got to zoom out on my own creative business and contemplate where I was heading, what I wanted to slash and burn, where I was headed as a creative creature… And guess what? Everyone seemed to be finding clarity but me!

Until the very last day.

I realized that I had been at this creative biz thing for a looooooong time (more than 20 years!) And although I have had lots of great success over the years, some part of me was still waiting for permission – permission to be my biggest self, permission to have a seat at the table, permission to grow into more prosperity, permission to use my voice in bigger ways.

In the closing circle, I was the only one who didn’t share. No one noticed (phew!) which relieved me because I wasn’t ready to put my aha moment into words just yet. The closest words I had was a knowing that my seat at the table was there for me to choose. There would be no formal invitation. It was up to me to share my voice and my heart and claim that space… not in a shouty way, not at the exclusion of others, but in the way that someone who knows that they are worthy claims their space.

Back at home the next day, an idea seemed to drop in out of nowhere – 1440 should have a podcast and I should be their podcast host.

The feeling was total clarity.
Grounded. Like a fact.
Not a stretch.
No ego or fear attached.
Just a full body yes.

And somehow, 24 hours later I had whipped up a proposal for them and sent it off!

Eight months later, I am now their Facebook Live host! And I have been interviewing the most incredible personal growth luminaries that come through their center to teach. It’s live video! Which made me nervous at first… I’m used to radio! But it has been so good for me to work through that edge. Another level of trusting myself + my voice.

Are you ready for one of your Mondo Beyondo dreams to come true this year? YES you are!

Class begins, Monday, September 16th, 2019

More details here.

Wanna get in on the early bird price? LAST CHANCE!

Just enter the coupon code: EARLYBIRDMAGIC  at checkout to get the course for 99- instead of $129

A remedy for when you are feeling stuck. (+ final week for Mondo Beyondo discount!)

Try this: Think of a place in your life where you feel stuck. If some part of you is asking a version of “What’s wrong with me?” like, Why can’t I get my shit together? or Why am I not a more (loving, smart, confident, focused, ambitious, insert your word of choice) person?

Try asking yourself this instead: “What do I most want? What am I longing for?” and then, “How can I create that?”

Trust me. These are much better questions.

This is how Mondo Beyondo can help right your ship. Asking ourselves what we most want and how we can create that is putting those intentions out into the Universe in a much more efficient way. Let’s not muck up the works with staying mired in what we think is wrong. Let’s orient ourselves toward where we want to go.

And guess what?

We can create magic even inside of our imperfect circumstances.
We can make dreams come true from our exquisitely imperfect selves.
We can think the wrong thoughts. We can feel jealous. We can be afraid.

And still create miracles.

Mondo Beyondo is designed to:

  • Help you identify your dreams
  • Identify your core values so that your dreams are in line with your true spirit and passions.
  • Give you tools and practices for approaching your dreams in a powerful way.
  • Show you how deepening 5 capacities in your life (courage, vulnerability, trust, intuition + flexibility) can help you create the ideal conditions for dreams to come true.
  • Give you some signs to look for to know when to quit or keep going
  • Give you practices you can do regularly to honor your dreams and make space for them

Note: Class begins, Monday, September 16th, 2019
(6 weeks, all done at your own pace with a gorgeous community of kindreds)

More details here. 

You can still enter the coupon code: EARLYBIRDMAGIC to get the course for $99! ($129)

 

Who do you want to meet? + why it pays to share your Mondo Beyondo list.

I got to meet one of my heroes a few years ago. Okay, my HUGEST hero. There is one book that sits on my nightstand year after year as a constant fixture. While other books flow in and out, My Grandfather’s Blessings: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging by Rachel Naomi Remen remains. It’s like my blankie. I often pick it up and open it at random, reading whatever story finds me in that moment, and it’s always just the right one. I think it’s called bibliomancy and traditionally done with the Bible, but I do it with Rachel’s books. I cry every time I read the introduction to the book.

One of the reasons it pays to share your Mondo Beyondo list is that others go to work on your dreams on your behalf. They write to you and say things like, “I know the director of that program you have been wanting to apply for!” Or, “You want to learn spanish? I know this really hot Spaniard who wants to practice his English.” 😉 You know, stuff like that.

This time, it was my pal Juli who emailed me and said, “I remember that meeting Rachel Naomi Remen is on your Mondo Beyondo list. Can I gift you a pass to her workshop at Spirit Rock in May?”

Years ago, a friend told me a story about how finally, after years of wanting to meet Neil Young, he finally got the opportunity. He was given tickets to his show in Los Angeles and backstage passes. His dream was going to come true! The evening of the concert however, his back went out and he couldn’t go. He called me the next day and admitted he felt relieved. He said he even wondered if he somehow conjured up the injury so he wouldn’t have to go. There was something about meeting his hero that was terrifying to him. Neil Young might never be the same to him again.

And it’s true. You never know what you will find. Your fantasy of who that person is might be dashed. You might discover that in person they are no big deal. Just a person. You might find they are not nice or don’t look you in the eyes. You might realize that they matter to you but you don’t really matter to them (after all, they don’t even know you) You might discover they are much smaller in person where in your mind they loomed so large.

I remembered all of this as I walked toward the retreat center that morning. I saw her up on the stage and I realized that the author photo I had been staring at all these years was from ten years earlier. She had aged into a beautiful, but much older woman than I had realized. When she spoke, the first thing she said was, “I am very soft spoken, so I hope you all can hear me in the back of the room.” I expected her voice to be deeper, louder and more commanding. But she commanded the room with her quiet and her wisdom. She commanded with her presence, which was so powerful, and even in the way she moved slowly… She didn’t say a lot, but everything she said was like a precious gem.

As you can probably tell, I wasn’t disappointed. But then came the moment of truth. Should I say hello? Should I tell her that I want to have tea with her? Why didn’t I bring a book for her to sign? Is it dorky to want a photo with her?

I gathered my courage and she greeted me and held my hand while I nervously told her that her stories give me courage to share my own. I told her the thing about her book being my blankie and she laughed graciously.

When I think of Mondo Beyondo dreams, I often ask myself what the dream is that lives inside that dream. Often they are like nesting dolls, one sitting inside the other, each one waiting to be revealed. There is the dream of meeting Rachel, which is perfect as it is, and then there are other dreams that live inside– to be mentored by someone who resonates that deeply with me, to hear and share sacred stories that transform you forever and to write a book as beautiful as the one sitting on my nightstand.

Who do you want to meet?
What adventures do you want to call in?
What delicious experiences do you want to have?
What do you want to give in this one precious life?

These are some of the things you will discover in Mondo Beyondo this fall.

More details here. 

You can still enter the coupon code: EARLYBIRDMAGIC to get the course for $99! ($129)

 

Mondo Beyondo is back! + better than ever.

More than 15 years ago, I started blogging about the concept of Mondo Beyondo + invited my blog readers to join in and put their lists in the comments. The invitation was this – set a timer for 15 minutes and make a list of all of the most outrageously wonderful things you can imagine happening this year. It was born out of a realization that my own dreaming was limited to what I thought was realistic what I thought I could get, what I thought I could achieve, what I believed I deserved.

It felt vulnerable for me to want more… because what if I didn’t get it, right? I figured this would somehow feel worse.

Ugh. Of course made its way into my relationships as well – keep your expectations low and just be grateful for what you get… was my general rule of thumb. I made the mistake of not asking for what I wanted and needed in relationship, which led to resentment and bitterness. 

The pain of wanting and not getting felt like too much to bear, so I cut off my desire instead. And do you know what the price is for cutting off your desire? Your aliveness. 

Discovering Mondo Beyondo was a revelation.

I started a tradition where instead of making New Year’s resolutions, I made Mondo Beyondo lists. The playful nature of it appealed to me and I loved stretching my imagination into the (seemingly) impossible – What if someone gifted me a trip to Hawaii this year? What if I fell in love? What if I found work that fed my soul and supported my family? What if I experienced ease and deep connection as I moved through the world? What if my favorite author asked if we could collaborate? What if I wrote a bestselling book + became someone else’s favorite author? And on and on… 

The process felt so delicious and not scary at all. And somehow doing it in community amplified the effects of my lists! As other people shared their desires and dreams, it made mine feel even more possible. It enlarged the playing field. 

Mondo Beyondo functions this way – we expand our sense of what’s possible, we allow deeper intuitions to arise and we put powerful intentions out into the world. We build our courage, we say yes, we trust ourselves and the Universe. It’s a little bit of work, a little bit of magic and a lot about mindset.

Mondo Beyondo is designed to:

  • Help you identify your dreams
  • Identify your core values so that your dreams are in line with your true spirit and passions.
  • Give you tools and practices for approaching your dreams in a powerful way.
  • Show you how deepening 5 capacities in your life (courage, vulnerability, trust, intuition + flexibility) can help you create the ideal conditions for dreams to come true.
  • Give you some signs to look for to know when to quit or keep going.
  • Give you practices you can do regularly to honor your dreams and make space for them.

Class begins, Monday, September 16th, 2019

Wanna get in on the early bird price?

Just enter the coupon code: EARLYBIRDMAGIC  at checkout to get the course for 99- instead of $129

Here’s what some of the thousands of Mondo Beyondo grads are saying:

Mondo Beyondo is permission I didn’t know I needed. It is encouragement I didn’t know I lacked. Mondo Beyondo is courage. It is grace. It is YES. Mondo Beyondo is starter fluid for a fire that is still burning. – Erin

“This session was my third Mondo Beyondo session and the best! I will miss your beautiful photos, art, and thoughtful words in my inbox every week. I feel that your words of wisdom about dreaming finally sunk in and so many of my dreams already came true during the class.” -Sara Jane

“I registered my husband for Mondo Beyondo as a gift when he and I were just dating. He was in a creative rut and I heard rave reviews from a good friend. I don’t know how the workshop did it, but it’s like Mondo Beyondo brought all the amazing, exciting parts of him back to life! It was just what he needed.” – Mallory

“Thank you once again Andrea for facilitating our abilities to allow the things we most dream of to happen in our lives! I’m in again!”-Beth

“Back in 2009, I made the leap to sign up for the Mondo Beyondo course and I’m here today to say it was worth every penny. That seemingly simple act of valuing my path changed me forever. After my time spent in your course, I started a blog that has turned out to be very successful and in none of the ways I anticipated. Without specifically setting out to take on this career, I’ve managed to stumble into the very place I wanted to be – daily inspiring writers and readers to create books that will touch the lives of children everywhere. It’s phenomenal. And even better, it’s not over; it keeps going. Every day.” – Danielle

The real magic of Mondo Beyondo

In this course, we teach folks to imagine what we call their Mondo Beyondo dreams – the most outrageously wonderful things they can imagine happening in their lives. For many of our students, dreams they never thought possible actually come true.

But here’s the thing: In the end, it’s not just about our dreams coming true. It’s about who we are becoming in the pursuit of our dreams. Are we becoming the most alive version of ourselves? The bravest, most authentic expressions of who we are?

That’s how our dreams serve us. They tell us who we are and who we are becoming. They pull us toward a version of ourselves that inspires.