January 04, 2008

Mondo Beyondo 2008 Part One: Completing

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Wendy, Oakland, CA,Canon Rebel XTI

The new year is always an exciting time for me. I love wiping the slate clean, buying a new calendar and beginning again. It is such a ripe time for ritual, so if you you would like to join me in one, I would like to invite you to be part of Mondo Beyondo 2008...

The surest way to start fresh and move forward is to be at peace with what came before. You might have had an incredible year, a dull year, or a truly difficult year. Whatever happened, your aim is to celebrate what there is to celebrate about it and grieve what there is to grieve...

Are you with me people?

My challenge for you is to answer the following questions and declare 2007 complete. Rituals can often be even more powerful when others can witness you. You are welcome to do this exercise privately, but I suggest sharing with a friend and/or posting your lists here. You are in good, safe company. (Feel free to post anonymously)

1. What do you want to acknowledge yourself for in regard to 2007?
(What did you create? What challenges did you face with courage and strength? What promises did you keep to yourself? What brave choices did you make? What are you proud of?)

2. What is there to grieve about 2007?
(What was disappointing? What was scary? What was hard? What can you forgive yourself for?)

3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete?

Okay, the next step is to say out loud, "I declare 2007 complete!" How do you feel? If you don't feel quite right, there might be one more thing to say...

The final step is to consider your primary focus for the year to come. What is your primary intention or theme for 2008? Is it the year of joy? the year of self-care? the year of partnership?
Stand up and say it proud, "2008 is my year of...."

(Mondo Beyondo Part Two: Where are you going? is coming soon)
"The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning." -George Baker

Posted on January 4, 2008 09:42 AM
Comments

I was sent this by my sister who also had a rough 2007, so here I go with MY letting go:

1. 2007 and saw me get Married in March which had some major family hurdles to get through, I was 17 weeks pregnant at the time and was struggling with that, physically. I was happy to be pregnant but not everyone was. I created a little person who i just love and admire all the time. We brought a house at the end of 2007, very close to christmas and the stresses from that wern't enought for me so, I was then asked to host christmas for my family and that tipped me over. Looking back I am proud of my self for getting through a very difficult and demanding year.

2. I grieved alot last year. I was having problwms with my sister not wanting to accept I was going to be having a baby before she was. The worst thing for me was suffering Post Natal Deppression. I was beyond upset and I grieved for along time about the fact i had a difficult birth and that i didnt have that "connection" straight away with my little boy.I was dissapointed with some part of our wedding, like My father-in-law making this wonderful speach and comparing me to a loyal dog!!!?

3. I regret the emotional toilet that I dumped on my husband. The weight of some of it was to much and he had no where to go to escape it. I just wish I could have enjoyed all the wonderful things that happened last year.

and with that.... I declare 2007 over and complete!!!

2008 is my year of honesty and trust. New friendship and rekindling old friendships. A year for me to CREATE Myself!!! AND enjoy my small but awsome family.

Posted by: Miranda at January 24, 2008 12:10 AM

Thanks for setting up this ritual! It really made me reflect, see things clearly and feel excited about 2008 here is my post http://kt40.wordpress.com/2008/01/21/586/
kt40

Posted by: katy at January 21, 2008 10:19 PM

1. Staying upright in the middle of lots and lots and lots of work. Being a good parent to two wonderful kids. Writing the first draft of yet another NaNoWriMo novel.

2. Not being happy was scary. I felt hemmed in by my work, there's just too much of it, and I feel I can't be what I'm supposed to be in my own mind: super-perfect and happy to boot and also a novelist on top of everything else. But I forgive myself for not always being perfect, for really wanting to get away from my kids and boyfriend at times, for not publishing a novel before I am 40.

3. I love learning new things, having a goal and a direction. I find I'm happiest when I am busy, but in clear, recognizable chunks. I also realise that security is very important to me: I feel a lot better when I don't have to worry about money, whether they are rational or irrational worries. Focus is also important: I can't do everything at the same time, and I need to acknowlegde this more, I think.

And with that, I declare 2007 over!

2008 will be the year of the Personal MBA...

3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete?

Posted by: marrije at January 19, 2008 07:10 AM

1. We bought our first home! Developing my website, keeping my job, and knitting. Growing as a teacher, and taking a leadership role. Taking less work home. Eating lots of spicy food.

2. I've lost....my beautiful pet cockatiel Benni, the financial freedom to work less, .... my artistic momentum.

3. 2008 is the year to come back to simple pleasures, time at home, crafts, and yoga.

Posted by: Lisa at January 18, 2008 07:08 PM

I guess I'm a little late joining the party... but my answers are up on my blog!!!

http://janasjourneys.blogspot.com/2008/01/mondo-beyondo.html

Thanks SOOOOOO much... I needed to read this, and I needed to give myself permission to put 2007 officially in the past. Thanks.

Posted by: Jana at January 15, 2008 06:30 PM

thanks so much for all the inspiration! i wrote about mondo beyondo on my blog here: http://www.creativeeveryday.com/creativeeveryday/2008/01/the-randomizer.html

Posted by: leah at January 12, 2008 08:13 PM

This took me days to write but I really enjoyed it. My answers can be found here: www.meli-mello.com

Thanks for the inspiration!

Posted by: melanie at January 12, 2008 03:22 PM

1. 2007 marks our first year of marriage! i am proud that andy and i have had a great year of partnership, and that we have both had the opportunity to build each other up and be encouraging. being loved like that has planted seeds of strength and courage and hope in me.

i am proud that by the end of the year i was really enjoying my job, because at times i thought i wouldn't make it (or that i'd become sick of the things that i love about it.) i am proud that was brave and asked for help.

i am proud that i started to learn floristry, and i am grateful that somehow God used that new outlet for my creativity to make me more in love with music, my most favourite creative language in the world.

i am proud that i did a summer school course at the conservatorium of music, and i looooved it.

2. i loved this first year of marriage, but it was hard sometimes. mostly i just made it hard for myself. i forgive myself for expecting too much and then being angry and depressed because i didn't feel beautiful enough, sexy enough, sophisticated enough, organised enough... i can stop now.

i forgive myself for not looking after my body as much as i need to.

i forgive myself for not doing all the cool things that i wanted to do this year. i think it was because i was scared. i forgive myself for being scared.

i grieve friendships that aren't strong like they were.

3. 2007, i learnt a lot from you but i am ready to start new. i declare you complete!

2008 is my year of courage and discovery.

Posted by: janet at January 11, 2008 10:25 PM

thank you so much for this ~ i found it to be incredibly healing and joyous, realizing how far i have come ... i am looking forward to doing part ii ... xox

mondo beyondo

Posted by: daisies at January 11, 2008 01:53 PM

My post can be found on my blog:

dieadjustormigrate.typepad.com

What a great idea!

Posted by: olwyn at January 10, 2008 05:43 PM

1.I have laid the foundation of love, trust, guidance, and security for my son. I have embraced the changes he has brought to our lives and learned to love change, not fight it. I have deepened my relationship with God. I have learned the power of asking for help and how freeing it is to admit when you need help. I have learned that peace comes with just being still, not doing.
2. I grieve how much time I wasted feeling sorry for myself. I grieve how I took my displeasure and hatred for myself out on those I love. I grieve how I wasted time trying to fix things that weren’t broken instead of enjoying the moment.
3. Mommy is sorry for the time she wasted questioning you instead of loving you.
I declare 2007 complete!

Posted by: Lisa at January 10, 2008 01:32 PM

1. What do you want to acknowledge yourself for in regard to 2007?
(What did you create? What challenges did you face with courage and strength? What promises did you keep to yourself? What brave choices did you make? What are you proud of?)

i finally faced my fear of teaching and taught my first workshop in toronto, canada last october. there was always a seed of self doubt. after creating work i love for several years and traveling this country exhibiting it. i just couldn't shake that feeling of 'not knowing what i am doing'. always questioning myself and not feeling good enough.

the workshop went well. everyone loved it and created beautiful work. i felt ashamed for holding myself back all those years. i look forward to more teaching in 2008!


2. What is there to grieve about 2007?
(What was disappointing? What was scary? What was hard? What can you forgive yourself for?)

i forgive myself for not taking care of and loving my body the way i should. for not getting my annual mammogram because i was embarrassed of the weight i have gained. this was hard to forgive myself for because my mother died of breast cancer 12 years ago. she was only 46 years old.

i forgive myself for being an imperfect mother, wife, friend, niece and daughter.

i grieve a few friendships i have let drift away. especially my friend gina who now lives far away in hawaii.


3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete?

2007 you felt a little dark and lonely at times. i felt like i lost my joy and love for myself. i felt at times i didn't take the best care i could of my family because i didn't care enough about myself.

i am grateful for the lessons learned, the tears cried and the laughter we shared. i am ready to say goodbye and begin again.

2007 i declare you complete!

i declare 2008 the year of self care and creating my own joy!

Posted by: meesh at January 9, 2008 07:15 PM

I declare 2008 my year of daring joy!

Thank you, as always, for being amazing and inspirational and admitting that you don't always feel amazing or inspirational- even though you always seems that way to me.

Thanks,
Jen

Posted by: jen at January 9, 2008 05:10 PM

Loved reading these...mine is over my site www.elaynaalexandra.com

Posted by: alex at January 9, 2008 05:04 PM

Loved reading these...mine is over at my site www.elaynaalexandra.com

Posted by: alex at January 9, 2008 05:04 PM

1. In 2007 I married my favorite person and discovered that marriage was so much more than I thought it would be. I planned a beautiful wedding that was perfect in every way. I stood up for what I really wanted rather than trying to please others for a change and it was the most amazing, rewarding and surprising thing.

Creatively, I started a craft blog with a friend and together we created a collection for a craft fair that was successful beyond our expectations. Blogging made me realize that I want to write even more.

I realized that I need a little help meeting deadlines and learned the joy of setting and achieving realistic goals. I still procrastinate, but I've stopped feeling guilty about it and trying to pretend it isn't happening. Less guilt is another delicious discovery of 2007.

2. I forgive myself for not inviting my aunts from overseas to my wedding. My husband's parents couldn't travel due to illness and I felt guilty about inviting my aunts knowing that they would come.

I forgive myself for not following through on plans that I had to take more weekend trips, to renovate my basement and to make more handmade gifts.

I forgive myself for not being the best employee and student I could be and for not putting my full attention and efforts towards either my job or my graduate program.

I forgive myself for not making the effort to lose the weight I want to before trying to get pregnant.

3. 2007, you were a year of discovery, commitment and confidence for me. You brought me a lot of joy and success and I will miss you and worry that 2008 might not be as good, but I declare you complete.

2008 is my year of family and self-discovery.

Posted by: elise at January 9, 2008 04:48 PM

I know declare 2007 complete.

2008 is my year of self love and self discovery! 2008 is the year of ME!!

Thank you Andrea for this inspiration.

Posted by: Jennifer at January 8, 2008 08:29 PM

that. is a gorgeous picture.

Posted by: fathima at January 8, 2008 07:13 PM

Here is the link to mine.
http://justcallmegus.blogspot.com/2008/01/mondo-beyondo.html

Thank you for the prompting and creativity,
Sam

Posted by: Sam at January 8, 2008 12:08 PM

A - liking the new twist on M.B. My part one is done (posted at my blog)...looking forward to part two... :)

Posted by: Marilyn at January 8, 2008 09:23 AM

1. I completed my first year at the Academy of Music. I am proud that I did not give up even when I felt like I am the worst singer on the planet and that I could never make a living of my singing. I am proud that I did not let others push me into a choice that I do not want; the choice between genres. I am proud that I keep figthing to be both a classical and a jazz singer.

More than that I am proud that I have come so far in understanding that I don't need _many_ friends but _good_ friends. I am proud that I have so much love to give to my dear friends and that I done my very best in nurturing my relationships during this year, also when there was little time.


2. I forgive myself for singing badly and for thinking that I don't work hard enough. I allow myself to feel that I did my best. I forgive myself also for not succeeding in this, sometimes; I am not a bad person when I feel like I am the worst singer in the world, I don't have to feel guilty or be ashamed of my low self-esteem. I forgive myself for having complained to friends about how bad I am and how little I deserve my place at the Academy of Music.

I forgive myself for letting the whole summer pass without doing the musical theory assignments (and for still not having done them). I forgive myself for feeling that I didn't do a thing the whole summer. I forgive myself for not being creative, and for feeling that I HAVE TO be creative all the time to be loveable. I do not have to listen to people who claim that people who don't have a summer job and/ or travel a lot are lazy, uncreative and a waste of space ... and I forgive myself for feeling bad about it, too.

The last few months of 2007 was scary, because I had too little time for my friends, for myself and for my true musical joy. I intend to not let this happen again, but I can forgive myself for living that life without stopping myself from wanting to do too much too fast.

I grieve that I haven't been inspired to make collages. I grieve that the musical studies made me so busy that I had little or no time to make friends at school.


3. 2007 was a good year! A happy year and I intend to look at it as the start of something new, something strong and safe that I will continue to build upon during 2008.

2008 is my year of loving myself completely!

Posted by: Kristin at January 8, 2008 04:24 AM

1. What do you want to acknowledge yourself for in regard to 2007?
I really attempted to try new things in 2007 and feel that I have accomplished some great things. I started therapy after years of wanting to and just picked up the phone one scary day and made a few calls. Trying to overcome anxiety when you are in the swirling heart of it is a terrifying thing but I am so proud of myself that I did it. And I didn't do it just for me either, I did it for my marriage and for my future children. It's been an eye opener in many aspects and I really feel that it has started a healing process that I am looking forward to being on.

I also took on a new role at work that I felt I might not be suited for. But I took a deep breath and went ahead because I knew that part of the fear was that I wasn’t really good enough. I still have the fear but I have been told that I’m doing a pretty darn good job.


2. What is there to grieve about 2007?
The hardest part of 2007 for me was the loss of my dreams, of hopes and ideals. Because my hubby and I did not conceive it really shattered my core being for awhile. I truly felt that we would be one of those couples that got pregnant right away. And it was so hard when we didn't and still haven't after one year.

So for 2007 I grieve the person that I thought I was going to be.

I forgive myself for not having a perfect cycle and more importantly I forgive myself for taking hormonal birth control for far too long (12+ years!) I forgive myself for not knowing or asking what risks I was putting myself and my future children under while I was taking it.

I also grieve the stress I put on myself and my marriage with temping, and tracking every little fertility clue. I grieve the time I spent worrying about silly things like work and how a new job would affect us trying to start our family while I could have spent that time loving my husband and my bunny.

Most importantly I forgive myself for being upset when loved ones conceived before we did, and for worrying how others would treat us because I hadn’t gotten pregnant yet.

I forgive myself for not keeping my priority’s centered, for losing track of what really matters to my heart and for letting vanity and jealousy get in the way of just being.


3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete?
2007 was a strange year in that I don’t remember much of it because all the baby making business sort of took over. I feel that I have learnt so much about myself and about my marriage that I am excited looking forward to this new year.

I Thank 2007 for teaching me that I am still strong and still have so much love to give.

I now declare 2007 complete!!

2008 is my year for loving my famiy and trusting my body.

Posted by: melanie jennifer at January 7, 2008 10:23 PM

I loves me some Mondo Beyondo.

http://www.cheapblueguitar.com/2008/01/adios_2007.php

Posted by: Brian at January 7, 2008 09:44 PM

1. What do you want to acknowledge yourself for in regard to 2007?
I started running and went from barely being able to run across the street to running my first 5K race.

2. What is there to grieve about 2007?
The year started off with one of my fave aunts dying. Devastated. Then my sister found her biological family...also devasted. I guess I need to forgive myself for not dealing with that very well. I still have issues with the 'mother' but I am feeling like my family has expanded nicely due to her new half-brother. I also have to let go of the fact that I wasn't the most communicative friend this year.

3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete? I'm glad it's over! 2007 was not the best year of my life...but it could have been worse. I love my life and everyone in it. I need to learn not to let stress envelope me so easily. Slightest thing seems to send me over the edge.

Thank you for this outlet Andrea!!! I feel a little bit better already!

Posted by: Jennifer at January 7, 2008 10:14 AM

1.I am proud of myself for continuing to survive despite not having a true place to call home. This will continue to be a struggle for 2008, although there are improvements given that we have committed to a home base at least until spring.

I also stood up to B's parents. I am not sure it did me much good, but I didn't just cave and turn to mush. I am glad that I sent out another set of mother's day postcards. And the Christmas card project has also grown.

I am also grateful that we have continued to return to the Bay Area as often as we have. There is just something about that place that makes me feel more alive. Oh, and I also walked on a treadmill for the first time in my life. And visited Oregon and Washington.

2.The hardest loss was the break in at the storage space. I think part of it is not knowing exactly all that was lost, but also just that feeling of violation. It didn't help that much of what was taken were things I had bought to keep me sane and to hold onto the hope that we would find a place to call home. Thinking about things to put on the wall or cups that I would serve tea to visitors made me feel like there was something to look forward to. Taking those things felt like that hope was choked.

I am disappointed in myself in that although I have been keeping it together, I have successfully managed to isolate myself. I continue to grieve the loss of my family. I also need to take better care of myself physically and mentally.

3.I can't believe that we have been engaged for eight years and that we have known each other for almost 20. I know I haven't been the best partner and need to work on that. I also haven't been the best friend. I am sorry for that.

I declare 2007 over!

2008 is the year of reaching out and creating a 'family'.

Posted by: chris at January 7, 2008 05:09 AM

Reading the other comments on this exercise made me cry. Thank you.
1. I quit a 'good, safe' job that I had grown to hate and started another that has rekindled my love of learning and I accept that it is was a 'here for a good time/not a long time' move. I committed to becoming happy and healthy and began therapy. I invested in myself by hiring a career coach. I played more and worked less. I became my friend.
2. I forgive myself for being a perfectionist. I finally grieve my childhood. It was hard to figure out how to just be.
3. I feel good. I feel grateful for the growth that 2007 inspired in me. I am excited for 2008, it is going to be one helluva year.

Posted by: Cynthia at January 6, 2008 08:30 PM

Thank you... from the bottom of my toes for posting this!! I am so happy to let 2007 go.... I love the thought of bringing in 2008 in a positive way... and you have helped that to be possible. I wrote my answers on my blog.

Happiness to you and your family in 2008!

Posted by: Dee at January 6, 2008 07:41 PM

1. i got my dream job locally. i turned getting laid off into a richness. I was hiking on a cliff with my dog, camping alone when i found out i got laid off. i'm proud i have the smarts, skills and creativity to do well at this amazing new workplace. im proud that i have flourished at living with my boyfriend. i'm proud for the fitness and health i have found. i'm proud for the neighborhood we live in, for the neighbors that we meet, for the woods that surround us two miles from the city.

2. i grieve deeply that i was unable to make a large sculpture that i got a grant for. i grieve that i cannot make a personal art everyday habit. the creative workplace uses all my brain and creative mojo, leaving my physical body aching for movement at night. i'm scared that i won't be happy with him, that i won't find a way to be myself.

3. i forgive myself for not making a masterpiece of a sculpture this year. i declare 2007 complete.

2008 is to be full of friends sunshine wilderness and gentle creativity. it will be my year of writing something, it's better than nothing.

Posted by: megan at January 6, 2008 02:49 PM

Thank you for sharing this womderful ritual!

1. 2007 was a year of such massive growth for me and I totally signed up for the stretching of me. I finalised my divorce with dignity and walked away from him with forgiveness - this was so difficult and scary but now its done. I let go of places and people that were sucking my energy. I am proud of how I have managed to shed the negative things in my life and move into a place of peace and joy. I have discovered how brave I can be.

2. I forgive myself for being weak and for making mistakes but I understand now why those things happened. Leaving London and returning to New Zealand was more difficult than I ever anticipated. I am settling in now and this place just energises me. 2007 is complete!

2008 is my year of living authentically: a life of joy and love!

Posted by: sas at January 6, 2008 02:01 PM

I love this! Thank you for making me think!

1. I am proud that I finally opened myself up to getting real treatment for infertility. It’s been a long battle, and it’s not over yet, but 2007 was the year that I finally accepted that our future baby might be conceived in a doctor’s office rather than in our marital bed. I’m proud that infertility has brought my husband and I closer together, rather than driving us apart.

I stepped out of my comfort zone and took a class at a local bead store, to learn how to do wiring work. I’ve always wanted to be able to make earrings for myself and others, and now I’m doing it. I’ve never considered myself to be creative or artistic, but I am slowly learning to not let my vision of myself keep me from doing creative things. I also started and completed a knitting project that involved designing my own pattern and techniques I’ve never done before. My perfectionist tendencies have always kept me from trying things I’ve never done before (because they might not turn out perfectly!), and I am proud that in 2007 I made baby steps to overcome this. I am learning to savor the process of creativity, rather than focusing on the outcome.

I also made great strides at work, and got the promotion I felt I deserved. Yay me!

2. The infertility mess was scary and hard, and disappointing, because we’re still not pregnant. My grandfather’s death was sad, and made me long even more for my own family, as that was his greatest legacy.

I forgive myself for not reaching out more to family and friends. 2007 was a year that we closed our circle a little bit, and focused on us. Selfish, but absolutely necessary.

3. I declare 2007 complete! I'm so over it, that's all I can say.

2008 is my year of taking better care of myself. It’s not a lose weight or get in shape kind of goal…I need to learn how to listen to my body, and nurture the parts that need attention. I will also learn to ask for help when I need it.

2008 is my year of focusing on the positive rather than wallowing in what we don’t have. 2008 is my year of creating rather than consuming.

I drive past a high school on my way to work, and one day I drove by and saw that a bunch of the cars had their windows painted for homecoming. One of the cars had this painted in the back window:

“’08—Don’t hate!”

I thought this was really funny, and it’s become a catchphrase that my husband and I will say to each other a lot. But I’m thinking that’s going to be my theme—2008: Don’t Hate.

Posted by: Betsy at January 6, 2008 10:52 AM

I love this! Thank you for making me think!

1. I am proud that I finally opened myself up to getting real treatment for infertility. It’s been a long battle, and it’s not over yet, but 2007 was the year that I finally accepted that our future baby might be conceived in a doctor’s office rather than in our marital bed. I’m proud that infertility has brought my husband and I closer together, rather than driving us apart.

I stepped out of my comfort zone and took a class at a local bead store, to learn how to do wiring work. I’ve always wanted to be able to make earrings for myself and others, and now I’m doing it. I’ve never considered myself to be creative or artistic, but I am slowly learning to not let my vision of myself keep me from doing creative things. I also started and completed a knitting project that involved designing my own pattern and techniques I’ve never done before. My perfectionist tendencies have always kept me from trying things I’ve never done before (because they might not turn out perfectly!), and I am proud that in 2007 I made baby steps to overcome this. I am learning to savor the process of creativity, rather than focusing on the outcome.

I also made great strides at work, and got the promotion I felt I deserved. Yay me!

2. The infertility mess was scary and hard, and disappointing, because we’re still not pregnant. My grandfather’s death was sad, and made me long even more for my own family, as that was his greatest legacy.

I forgive myself for not reaching out more to family and friends. 2007 was a year that we closed our circle a little bit, and focused on us. Selfish, but absolutely necessary.

3. I declare 2007 complete! I'm so over it, that's all I can say.

2008 is my year of taking better care of myself. It’s not a lose weight or get in shape kind of goal…I need to learn how to listen to my body, and nurture the parts that need attention. I will also learn to ask for help when I need it.

2008 is my year of focusing on the positive rather than wallowing in what we don’t have. 2008 is my year of creating rather than consuming.

I drive past a high school on my way to work, and one day I drove by and saw that a bunch of the cars had their windows painted for homecoming. One of the cars had this painted in the back window:

“’08—Don’t hate!”

I thought this was really funny, and it’s become a catchphrase that my husband and I will say to each other a lot. But I’m thinking that’s going to be my theme—2008: Don’t Hate.

Posted by: Betsy at January 6, 2008 10:52 AM

Thanks for sharing this Andrea. I've posted my Mondo Beyondo on my blog to share with my family and friends. It's a "quick and dirty" version. You've been a great resource for inspiration for me this past year, so thank you for the continued inspiration!

Posted by: Nancy at January 6, 2008 10:34 AM

1. I would like to acknowledge my wonderful efforts to make more art and photograph more and then go and blog about it. I would also like to acknowledge my achievement in moving to Portland and getting a brand new part-time job. I am proud of the life that I am creating for myself.

2. Dealing with pain was both scary and hard. I have not been graceful in this struggle. I often treat my body with little respect and then expect it to work miracles for me. I am also disappointed that my art remains in the closet (literally). I have yet to figure out how to turn my artmaking into something more.

3. 2007 you were big your were bold you were painful you were a time of expansion and growth. You were a winner at times and a big loser at other times. You took hold and me and sometimes I took hold of you. You were a fruiful field and at other times a wasteland.

2007, you're complete!
2008, you're an explosion of joy and goodness. I'm ready to take you on!

Posted by: kmm at January 6, 2008 10:10 AM

Thanks for this, Andrea. I posted my Mondo Beyondo on my blog to share with my friends and have had some amazing responses. This is great to look at the year in this way instead of the standard resoluting way.

Posted by: ~moe~ at January 6, 2008 09:25 AM

1. I provided the glue that my family constantly needs, although some would say I’ve been an enabler. My relationship with my nieces and nephews has grown deeper, and I take great satisfaction in seeing them blossom into future adults. I read more books this year than in the past and seen better movies. At least in the past few months, I’ve grown more patient and accepting of my husband’s immaturity – although it certainly continues to test me from time to time. Since I’m not an artist or “creator” in the sense that most who participate on this blog are, it’s not quite as easy to say what I’ve created. One idea that comes to mind is that I’ve led a team of 8 creative women at work to be incredibly productive professionally and to be the “go-to” department in the organization despite dwindling resources. Is that creating? Could be, considering I spend 50 hours a week at work.

2. It’s been a tough year. No children yet either through us or through others. I’ve been lazy, angry, scared and hopeless. My depression is hard. Seeing my siblings and my mom battle depression and possibly bi-polar has been hard. I need to forgive myself for not re-connecting with my friends from the past, although I promised myself that 2007 would be the year for doing so. I also forgive myself for still not knowing where I want to be professionally or even personally several years from now.

3. I know that only I have the power to continue dreaming and building a more fulfilled life. It’s up to me to find the keys and unlock my potential. 2008 is my year of forgiveness, releasing the inner critic, and seeking my full potential.

Posted by: Pi at January 6, 2008 09:17 AM

1. I accepted full responsibility of my life.
I tried to find a good job
I become self centered
I become more brave
I face with all my fears strongly(I am happy of this)

2. I didn’t continue finding a job in C#
I didn’t use my all opportunities to find a better or easier chance
Wasting some time
Let others opinions affect me for some time
I forgive myself for staying in a job that I knew it wasn’t what I want, and I feared to
step out; I let go!
I forgive myself for falling in love with MM. I will find my true love!

3.”2007” I truly tried that you would be a good and challenging year for me, I really tried to learn new things in my job, I tried to define myself again in you, Thanks and goodbye.


2008 is my year of Womanhood!

Posted by: ff at January 6, 2008 08:56 AM

1. In 2007 I settled into myself a bit more. I accepted character traits I had always thought weren’t good as really being okay and stopped trying to change them. I also took steps to becoming healthier and taking better care of my body by eating better foods and exercising regularly and going to the doctor, something I had been avoiding for years.

2. I was not able to get my spending under control as much as I wanted to. Looking back I realize a lot of what I spent money on did not contribute to better well being or making me happy. They were just things to distract me from difficult challenges in my life. I also allowed myself to become to caught up in other people’s negativity. I found myself being depressed and unhappy, and when I really thought about it, it was someone else’s problem that had led to the mood, not mine.

3. I declare 2007 complete! In many, many ways, 2007 was an outstanding year. There is nothing I would change, because all of it was part of my journey and even the dark times held lessons to learn. I am grateful for it all. Now bring on 2008!

2008 is my year of creativity. I am putting all of my energies into creating beautiful things I can share with the world.

Thank you Andrea for such inspiration, as always, and I wish everyone a successful and joyful 2008!

Posted by: Chris at January 6, 2008 08:04 AM

I acknowledge that 2007 was a year of quiet, or setting aside some of my dreams to nurture my baby, a year of preparation. I know that sometimes stepping back and watching others grow is important to my growth as well.

I release from my body, soul, and mind disappointments from this year. Knowing, physically, this is my last newborn. Knowing that some dreams (that have only recently come to light) such as the dream of being a doctor, are beyond the scope of my life at this time - I release that with love. I need to forgive myself from the need to be perfect in my family, my family of origin, physically, or as a seeker.

I declare you complete 2007! I want you to recede back and allow me to start fresh in 2008 with new energy. I want to reconnect with my dreams, my intuition, and my essential self.

I declare 2008 my year of - strength.

Bring it on!

Posted by: kimberly at January 6, 2008 05:35 AM

1. To be honest to myself. Always. Sometimes I failed, but it is getting better and stronger. To be proud to show my feelings, no matter if I get them back the way I would like to.

2. What was hard? To realise that I am not so perfect as I thought. So now I know I am not perfect, but I am UNIQUE!! :)

3. I enjoyed 2007 so I declare 2007 complete.

2008 is my year of love, honesty and being myself again.

Posted by: Eva at January 5, 2008 11:38 PM

Thank you for this, Andrea.
In 2007, I attended an international conference
on ELT in China in May. Last September, I taught
a new batch of students whose English is much
better than the previous ones. I set up my own
website and use it as an extension of my teaching. It works well so far.
I am always disappointed with my language competence, both English and Chinese. How I wish I could write and translate freely in both languages. I know it takes time.
If only I could have mastered these two languages, I would declare 2007 complete. There is still a long way to go.
Anyway, thanks for this post.;)

Posted by: soumet at January 5, 2008 07:29 PM

Part two to the part one:(thanks for the email)

2008 is my year to face the fear and to fail harder...to enjoy the rise and the falls.

Posted by: LD at January 5, 2008 05:01 PM

i want to marinate more on these questions and will either place my answers here or in an email to you.

but for now i have to say that this portrait is fricken sexy, man.

gorgeous.
wow.

xoxo

Posted by: boho girl at January 5, 2008 04:46 PM

1. In 2007 I asked for what I deserved at work and got it. I told my mother that I needed to be a real person and not just her security blanket. I decided I did not want children ever, which was hard to vocalize and a relief. I then overcame the shock of my body getting pregnant without my explicit permission and embraced the life to come. I am proud that I chose to stay in my marriage and thrive. I am proud that I was able to say I needed help with depression though this pregnancy
2. I forgive myself for cheating on my husband. For bringing pain into our marriage before the affair and for the lie that I will tell him for the rest of our lives. I grieve the fact that my marriage is no longer perfect in my mind, though I doubt that it ever was in reality. I forgive myself for staying in a job that is not fulfilling and not having any idea how to find a fulfilling career.
3. I know there are some fears that I will carry in to 2008 all the way up to birth of this child. I will let go of those fears and of the "what ifs" about the potential consequences I must face for previous actions. I will live in today with all of its greatness and all of its weaknesses. I declare 2007 complete.
I declare 2008 the year of confidence in myself and choosing to let others see the real me.

Posted by: Anonymous at January 5, 2008 03:28 PM

Thank you, Andrea, for this thought-provoking set of questions.

1. I am proud of moving my career forward in ways that I could not even conceive of at the beginning of the year. I learned that showing up each day with courage and strength was more useful than trying to figure it all out in advance. I am grateful for a couple of friendships that have grown deeper this year. I am proud of finally acknowledging my unhappiness in my marriage and taking steps to get us into counseling. I am proud of recognizing when I needed help, and being willing to try anti-depressant medication to help keep me clear and strong for that process. I'm proud of myself for continuing to try in this relationship, even when it is so painful and often feels hopeless.

2. I grieve that it took me so long to find the courage to name my unhappiness, which has only drawn out the hurting for both myself and my partner. I grieve the pride that kept me from treating my depression earlier. I grieve the ways I flailed around in my hurt, and the things I flung at my partner that were unfair, when I didn't have the clarity or the words to describe what I was really feeling.

3. I feel I have been on a path of growth for a couple of years, but 2007 was the year that began to really inhabit the person I want to be in the world. It is also the year that I realized the person I have become doesn't fit well into the life that I'm currently living and that to find my true joy, I will need to make some deep changes that may impact others in ways they don't appreciate.

I declare 2007 complete.

My primary intention in 2008 is to embrace my personal bravery.

Posted by: d at January 5, 2008 02:33 PM

Thank you for this thought-provoking set of questions.

1. I am proud of moving my career forward in ways that I could not even conceive of at the beginning of the year. I learned that showing up each day with courage and strength was more useful than trying to figure it all out in advance. I am grateful for a couple of friendships that have grown deeper this year. I am proud of finally acknowledging my unhappiness in my marriage and taking steps to get us into counseling. I am proud of recognizing when I needed help, and being willing to try anti-depressant medication to help keep me clear and strong for that process. I'm proud of myself for continuing to try in this relationship, even when it is so painful and often feels hopeless.

2. I grieve that it took me so long to find the courage to name my unhappiness, which has only drawn out the hurting for both myself and my partner. I grieve the pride that kept me from treating my depression earlier. I grieve the ways I flailed around in my hurt, and the things I flung at my partner that were unfair, when I didn't have the clarity or the words to describe what I was really feeling.

3. I feel I have been on a path of growth for a couple of years, but 2007 was the year that began to really inhabit the person I want to be in the world. It is also the year that I realized the person I have become doesn't fit well into the life that I'm currently living and that to find my true joy, I will need to make some deep changes that may impact others in ways they don't appreciate.

I declare 2007 complete.

My primary intention in 2008 is to embrace my personal bravery.

Posted by: d at January 5, 2008 02:32 PM

I HONOR 2007 as the year I turned 30 and began living my first year as a self employed artist. It was the year I kept a promise I made to myself to live authentically and believe in my dreams. I found out who my love is and moved back to Alaska. What a year of adventure!
I forgive myself for spending years walking circles around what my heart was telling me to do. I forgive myself for staying too long in a job that wasn't uplifting.
I declare 2007 complete.

2008 is a year of feeling good, making my own joy and rocking out some serious artwork!

Posted by: Amy K. at January 5, 2008 12:15 PM

1. I cherish 2007 for the joy in being a mother to my 3 year old, and for helping her discover the beauty and delight in nature, people, art, music and friends around us. I celebrate that I finally started creating after years of dreaming about it. I am grateful for the incorrect heart diagnosis that made me seize life - and start running for the first time ever! I am proud of getting fit in the face of fear. I created a lovely home for my family in this foreign country.
2. I forgive myself for being vulnerable, for being human, and for giving my heart away to the wrong person. I forgive myself for disappearing from friendships and hiding. I grieve for my brothers who have died, for my career left behind, for my home country and my family so far away.
3. I unfolded in 2007. I unlocked my soul and I soared. I experienced so much intensely on both ends of the spectrum. I created, I acquired art, I made it part of what I live with. I became an artist in 2007, and grew so much as a mother and a woman.

I declare 2007 complete!

2008 is my year of spiritual growth.

Posted by: artmom at January 5, 2008 09:23 AM

1. I cherish 2007 for the joy in being a mother to my 3 year old, and for helping her discover the beauty and delight in nature, people, art, music and friends around us. I celebrate that I finally started creating after years of dreaming about it. I am grateful for the incorrect heart diagnosis that made me seize life - and start running for the first time ever! I am proud of getting fit in the face of fear. I created a lovely home for my family in this foreign country.
2. I forgive myself for being vulnerable, for being human, and for giving my heart away to the wrong person. I forgive myself for disappearing from friendships and hiding. I grieve for my brothers who have died, for my career left behind, for my home country and my family so far away.
3. I unfolded in 2007. I unlocked my soul and I soared. I experienced so much intensely on both ends of the spectrum. I created, I acquired art, I made it part of what I live with. I became an artist in 2007, and grew so much as a mother and a woman.

I declare 2007 complete!

2008 is my year of spiritual growth.

Posted by: artmom at January 5, 2008 09:12 AM

1. I cherish 2007 for the joy in being a mother to my 3 year old, and for helping her discover the beauty and delight in nature, people, art, music and friends around us. I celebrate that I finally started creating after years of dreaming about it. I am grateful for the incorrect heart diagnosis that made me seize life - and start running for the first time ever! I am proud of getting fit in the face of fear. I created a lovely home for my family in this foreign country.
2. I forgive myself for being vulnerable, for being human, and for giving my heart away to the wrong person. I forgive myself for disappearing from friendships and hiding. I grieve for my brothers who have died, for my career left behind, for my home country and my family so far away.
3. I unfolded in 2007. I unlocked my soul and I soared. I experienced so much intensely on both ends of the spectrum. I created, I acquired art, I made it part of what I live with. I became an artist in 2007, and grew so much as a mother and a woman.

I declare 2007 complete!

2008 is my year of spiritual growth.

Posted by: artmom at January 5, 2008 09:12 AM

I celebrate that in 2007,
I reclaimed my writing voice.
I tried teaching and discovered that I don't want to do it.
I weaned my 18-month old.
I started running again.

I forgive myself that in2007 I continued to struggle professionally.

I now declare 2007 complete!

2008 is my year of joyful surrender.

Posted by: Jena at January 5, 2008 09:03 AM

1. i'm proud that i continued my pursuit to become an RD...
i was able to be my husbands rock during the worst of his panic disorder...
we know that we can get pregnant...

2. losing our unborn baby was incredibly difficult on many levels...
we look back at five years of marriage and agree that we've grown apart instead of closer...
i don't love myself...

3. I declare 2007 complete!

2008 is my year of marriage and home :)

Posted by: rak at January 5, 2008 08:18 AM

Thanks for the chance to consider 2007 - it's good to look backwards too.

1. I started a web business with my husband which is growing every day and teaching us important new skills. I also quit my day job and found a new post 150 miles away which meant that we could move out of London and back to my rural home county. I discovered how much my colleagues and friends valued me when I gave in my notice, which was unexpected and touching.

2. I grieve for the passing of the life that I built up in London - my career and friends, yet I know that I will take these precious connections with me. I also forgive myself for not growing the business at a faster pace and am thankful for what we have achieved. I'm certain that our patience will pay off.

3. 2007 was a year of extreme change and involved conquering great fears, but I am very proud that we have had the courage to follow our dreams. I declare 2007 complete.

2008 is about consolidation. Growing our business so that it provides a good wage, being an outstanding employee in my new job and creating a lovely home. Bring it on!

Posted by: Mel at January 5, 2008 04:14 AM

Thanks for yet another inspirational post. Happy, happy new year x

Posted by: Penny at January 5, 2008 02:22 AM

Thanks for yet another inspirational post. Happy, happy new year x

Posted by: Penny at January 5, 2008 02:21 AM

Thanks for yet another inspirational post. Happy, happy new year x

Posted by: Penny at January 5, 2008 02:21 AM

1. I finally quit my job and are not afraid to ask for what i want. I started to stand up for myself which i am very proud of.
2. I'm disappointed about a lot of my mums reactions this year especially for her disapproval of my engagement.
3. I declare 2007 complete!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yupeeeeee!!!!

"2008 is my year of COURAGE to live how i want to live, with courage to stay true to my self"

YAY i said it! Thank you

Posted by: marcela at January 4, 2008 11:56 PM

1. I gave birth in a big painful hurry to an amazing small very new person. She was a whole person curled up inside of me and I felt her peaceful spirit in here. Then we pushed her out together and wowee! I could never have imagined what a dynamite little lovebubble she is. I take really good care of her. She rewards me tenthousandfold.

2. The family that was me, the family that was me and my husband, the family that was me and my husband and my son; all are gone. Particularly with my son: the one-and-only-cherish feeling was removed, with a ripping away. There is a wonderful new feeling, but the other one is gone.

3. Fullness begets emptiness--parenting demands that I empty myself of alot of old personality quirks that were annoying, sure, but they were mine. Also moods, experiments, and drifts of being that were very pleasurable and time-consuming. My dreams have become, sharply, more practical. Of 2007: I have finished having children, but I'm really just starting to be a mom. I declare 2007 complete!

2008 is my year of laughter!

Posted by: ellie at January 4, 2008 09:07 PM

i just love this idea!
:)

i don't have the energy today...
but will save a special space in my
new journal for this little project.

thank you
for sprinkling your magic....

love,
mccabe x

Posted by: mccabe at January 4, 2008 08:37 PM

1. I acknowledge: the credit card debt I have FINALLY paid off,paid off the IRS, got a significant raise at work, put together a great team to work with, traveled to the Caribbean by myself and had a GREAT time, cut a-loose poisonous relationships,gained some new friendships that I treasure, lost 15 pound and finally loc'd my hair - which I LOVE!!!!

2. I grieve for another year lost without being in a relationship with someone. I don't feel any closer to having a family of my own.

3. I declare the challenging and lovely in it's imperfection, year of 2007 closed!!!

Posted by: LD at January 4, 2008 07:54 PM

1)I am proud that I created a home for my younger brother and myself. I decided on and enrolled in culinary school. I hosted and cooked dinner for my 26 person family and didn't fight with a single one of them.

2)I gave up my best friend of a decade to protect myself from her behavior. It was one of the hardest choices I've ever made and I grieve the loss of the person I used to know. I continued to grieve a relationship gone bad and didn't let myself learn to love someone new. I spent too much of my time being jealous of others instead of making myself happy

3) I am proud of myself for everything that I did accomplish in 2007. I will stop beating myself about the things I still need to work on, because there will always be things to work on and I can't feel bad about that.

2008 will be my year of bravery

Posted by: S at January 4, 2008 07:45 PM

Love to you Z. Peace be with you.

Posted by: jen at January 4, 2008 07:11 PM

Thanks Andrea, I have been awaiting your Mondo Beyondo post!

Here goes:

1. I helped my gorgeous little boy continue to develop into a healthy, funny, clever, cheeky toddler. I started creating regularly. I got over the shock of the big move to a new country and having a baby and started getting out and making friends (this has saved me, I'm sure. The loneliness I felt in 2006 was crushing). I have made our home a haven. I found the strength to keep smiling and to find fun anywhere I can.

2. My Mum's ongoing battle with breast cancer (god, just writing that made my heart stop). I live in denial of the possible negative outcome, and constantly remind myself to be positive because she is doing really well at the moment.

I grieve because I live so far from my family which means my parents aren't a part of my son's everyday life. This makes me so sad.

3. Thanks 2007 for the lessons you taught me about being a mother and wife. Not always easy lessons, but I'm starting to see the benefits and understand the changes I need to make. Thank you for being much easier than 2006 (otherwise I'm sure I'd be in a straight-jacket by now!). Thank you for letting me finally start to unravel the creativity I always knew was locked up inside me. Even for all that, I'm still glad to see the end of you! I heard the word "cancer" too many times, I still had times of terrible loneliness and sometimes I struggled with the person I am compared to who I would like to be.

I DECLARE 2007 COMPLETE! May only the good things about you remain in my memory, may the lessons I learnt make me stronger and may 2008 be better, bigger, easier.

Posted by: Michelle at January 4, 2008 05:13 PM

1. I started 2007 joyously pregnant, had a surprisingly beautiful birth in August(she came 5 weeks early) and 24 hours after her birth we found out she had a congenital heart defect that would require open heart surgery. We've since found more health issues in our sweet little girl. I am proud of myself for making the choice to find joy each day despite my life as a mom being very different than I thought it would be.
2. I grieve the life I thought my daughter would have-- A healthy life free of hospital stays and visits with specialists. She is such a strong baby--feisty and happy--but I long for her not to have to know such strength at such a tender age. I guess I'm grieving the life I thought I would have as a mom, too.
3. 2007 brought mt the richest joys and the richest sorrows. But I think I'm living the life I was meant to live. I firmly believe we are meant to be Vivian's parents.

Thanks, Andrea. I needed to acknowledge my year with a bit of ritual. Ahhhhh.

Posted by: hannah m at January 4, 2008 04:33 PM

I have to write the truth somewhere. I go into 2008 with zero hope for my dreams and life. I am not even doing goals and hopes this year.

Posted by: Z at January 4, 2008 03:45 PM

I have to write the truth somewhere. I go into 2008 with zero hope for my dreams and life. I am not even doing goals and hopes this year.

Posted by: Z at January 4, 2008 03:45 PM

I love doing this - and somehow I never think to do it on my own. Thanks for the prodding!

1. I'm proud of myself for giving birth to an amazing little person who has changed me in amazing ways. I had given up hope that I could realize my dream of being a parent, and now I am one.

2. I grieve two things: my loss of self, which I have allowed to slip through my fingers in the pursuit of being the "perfect" parent. And I grieve my delivery, which turned out not at all like I had planned. I still feel like having a c-section was a failure in some way.

3. This was the best year of my life, but I'm glad to never do it again. 2008 has so much promise.

Posted by: sara at January 4, 2008 03:31 PM

huh.. complete.. nothing ever feels complete, just morphs into the next place, with pieces hanging on and some of the same colours. then again, eventually it changes a lot. 2007 I would like to not be embarassed to say, but am, was dull in a hard kind of way for me. yes, it was. hard with parenting difficulties, hard with relative isolation and more self-doubt than I would wish on anyone. I would like to be able to say with entire clarity - this is what my life was this year. But I declare it complete, whatever and all it was. It's over. I forgive myself (again and again) for being so fantastically and naturally flawed, and I applaud myself for tenacity fueled by a belief in life. I hope I make it. 2008 is my year of finding my confidence and voice. Thank you, Andrea.

Posted by: Sandra Flear at January 4, 2008 02:46 PM

1.I completed an ongoing and heart-breaking story from my previous life. I may not feel that it is finished in my soul, but it truly is. I'm recovering - and that's something I could not imagine a year ago.

2. I'm still scared. I'm still too afraid to live the life I really want but at least I have become closer to working out the life I do want.

3. Thank you 2007 for being far better than 2006. I think you may have saved my life.

Posted by: Belinda at January 4, 2008 12:33 PM

I love this idea and, instead of bookmarking it and never actually participating, I will post my list here right now. (Belly shifts uncomfortably.)

1. I quit my office job to pursue writing full time. (Belly recalls squirming fear.)

2. Deciding to have a baby and then backing away from it because our relationship got really hard. (Belly is very disappointed but also rather tickled to still be relatively flat.)

3. 2008 is my year to celebrate what did get done, what did happen.

Thanks for this, Andrea!

Posted by: Moose at January 4, 2008 12:09 PM

THANK YOU! I was anticipating a Mondo Beyondo post.

Posted by: Megan at January 4, 2008 11:48 AM

loving this, andrea! thank you for the constant source of inspiration!

it's going to feel so good to declare 2007 complete!

Posted by: slierk at January 4, 2008 11:21 AM