June 20, 2007

an imperfect little post

ben_grass.jpg
Ben, Canon Elph SD1000

I've been experimenting with a new little point and shoot, the Canon Elph SD1000 which I am loving! A far cry from a digital SLR, but it fits in my pocket and shoots video. And who can carry around a big hunking camera anymore?

I've been struggling to post lately, but wanted to send a wee transmission anyway. I notice that my perfectionism gets in the way of me sharing anything at all. I want to write something brilliant or inspiring or funny and of course, don't write much of anything when I get in that mode! Trying to be brilliant always gets in the way of true brilliance.

So that's what I'll offer up today... a challenge to be less than perfect in the name of completion, and a quote from SARK on this topic: "Perfection is the enemy of done."

Posted on June 20, 2007 09:58 AM
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Posted by: Bill at July 1, 2007 11:43 AM

this is the stuff...perfectionism. The other day i was in a workshop where they asked us to come the next day dressed in something our parents wouldn't have let us out of the house wearing, and something we were still uncomfortable wearing. I chose the sexy, short school girl skirt that i'd gotten 9 months earlier online, but had ended up stuffing under a seat pillow in my bedroom because after i tried it on i felt so ashamed of my body, my muscular legs, my tummy...that i had even thought I could carry this off! And i left the outfit in a crumpled mess until last weekend, when i put it on with cowboy boots no less and i wore it, for two days.

i can't tell you how freeing it was to go from being a girl who couldn't wear a short, sexy skirt with cowboy boots because she didn't have the perfect body, to a girl who could wear those clothes. The trick was in taking a contradictory action. By not wearing the clothes I wasn't the girl. When I put them on and let go of being imperfect, i was suddenly the girl. Pretty cool.

Posted by: dweezila at June 29, 2007 09:29 AM

I've felt this way A LOT lately...

Posted by: kristine at June 27, 2007 03:59 PM

I recently gave myself 12 days to finish my fourth book, and I have to tell you this post makes complete sense. I wanted dearly to give it to my best friend for her graduation, and it got to the point where I realized that, yes, it didn't have to be perfect, I just had to get the gist down so it could be /done/, and later I could go back and edit it, but the important part was completing the present (I did manage to get it done and printed in time. :) )

Posted by: Savannah at June 25, 2007 07:30 PM

a,

I saw this picture and the first thing that came to my mind was wow...what kind eyes Ben has. I think he will be a healer...and really, hasn't he alreay! I love this picture and post. Quite perfect.

Jenn

Posted by: jenn at June 25, 2007 03:25 PM

girl i have the same struggle...

Posted by: la vie en rose at June 25, 2007 08:55 AM

hee hee....

the expression on his face his priceless...
ahhh! i could stare at those lips forever.
so divine.

now that i got my rebel
i have been completely ignoring my other cameras.
thanks for the reminder
that you can take a good shot with any camera...
(and yes it is sometimes hard to haul around a big camera)

hmmm....
maybe i will play with my polaroid...
its been awhile!

with love
mc

Posted by: mccabe at June 25, 2007 07:52 AM

This is a PERFECT imperfect little post.

Posted by: linda at June 22, 2007 07:16 PM

This is a PERFECT imperfect little post.

Posted by: linda at June 22, 2007 07:15 PM

hi andrea--i just wanted to thank you for being such an inspiration...i've been admiring you for a while now, and have gotten many great ideas from you, especially since you had your baby (i just had one, too)... like: reisenthel bags... the kangaroo carrier...zutano caps...and SARK's new book.....thank you, thank you!

Posted by: Erica at June 22, 2007 11:02 AM

hi andrea--i just wanted to thank you for being such an inspiration...i've been admiring you for a while now, and have gotten many great ideas from you, especially since you had your baby (i just had one, too)... like: reisenthel bags... the kangaroo carrier...zutano caps...and SARK's new book.....thank you, thank you!

Posted by: Erica at June 22, 2007 11:02 AM

Don't worry about your posts, just start each one with a picture of your baby and we will all be so mesmerized by his gorgeousness everything you write will seem genius.

Posted by: jc at June 22, 2007 05:56 AM

Oh, thank you for giving us that quote!. And thank you for all the estetique joy you give me every time I look at your pictures. They are more than perfect; they are an inspiration to see all the beauty in the world. Your son Ben is just adorable.
I have enjoyed reading lots of blogs that give me this huge inspiration to live life in a happy, creative and loving way. Your blog is one of my favorits. So please Keep on giving us your writings and photos, we adore them and love them!
Hope you are waking up to a very nice day with your family!
Love, Gry

Posted by: Gry at June 22, 2007 04:03 AM

I agree, this is something I definately needed to 'hear' today and it seems that there are lots of us out there feeling the same!

Aahhh and that photo is just the cutest!
x

Posted by: Alison at June 21, 2007 08:52 AM

I recently started my blog and This is exactly What I feel.
I postpone to do what I love until to have the feeling, and the feeling that I will write something perfect never come, so I don't write anything!

About your journal, I love the posts you write about your challenges, and sometimes when you just say about your happiness(it makes me happy too).

Posted by: Fatemeh at June 21, 2007 08:46 AM

I'm sure your other faithful readers would agree that we love your writing for it's honesty.
I think us women in general have a hard time admitting our faults, voicing specifics in our less-than-perfect lives. We probably fear doing this means we are saying what horrible mothers/wives/friends/lovers/etc.. we are!
I say keep rolling with the honesty - you are doing a great job, and you are setting quite the example for little Ben to model!
xxx

Posted by: tiffany at June 21, 2007 08:01 AM

I *LOVE* this quote. I'm printing it out now in BIG LETTERS and taping it to my wall!

Posted by: Laura at June 21, 2007 07:12 AM

Perfection is way overrated. Your posts are either very inspiring or comforting and that is brilliant in itself.

Posted by: Andrea at June 21, 2007 06:55 AM

Motherhood has forced me to face the lesson behind that quote many times over. When I had the luxury of time, I could keep my house spotless and do everything with as much perfection as I could muster. My mom always says, "if you aren't going to do something right, don't do it at all." I lived by that for most of my life.
Then for the first year of my child's life, I tried everything I could to try and continue my perfection stream. I was a sleepless basketcase, and judgmental to boot. I applied that to parenting, thinking there was one approach that would result in healthy, strong, independent, but loving and kind children.
OH HOW WRONG AM I?!
Now I only vacuum the floors about 1-2 times a week, I got a housekeeper to deep clean every other week, I figured out in my own confusion that there's no right approach, and there's not seriously enough time in the day to sit and worry about it anyway!

Posted by: trasi at June 21, 2007 06:20 AM

ive been feeling the exact same way lately :)
this shot of ben really looks like you ~ those
are your smoochy lips for sure!
xoxo
jen

Posted by: jen gray at June 21, 2007 06:02 AM

Hi A!

I have been enjoying all your posts. Ben is just absolutely adorable..makes me want to scoop him through the screen. Yesterday, I received Sark's newest book from my friend (this is my first SARK) and there I saw you smiling with the cherries on your ears and it brought a big huge grin to my face. I grinned back at you (in the book) like I know you in real life Thank you.

All the very best! XO!

Posted by: thodarumm at June 21, 2007 05:13 AM

I have the SD1000 and I love it. Not as much as I love my Rebel though!

Posted by: Robyn at June 20, 2007 09:35 PM

a,
i accept the challenge...hope you'll visit me in my own little space :-)
k
xo

Posted by: Kirsten Michelle at June 20, 2007 08:26 PM

Avoid perfectionism = sane parenthood.

Posted by: Tom Mohan at June 20, 2007 08:19 PM

Oh man, now that you have had the worlds cutest baby, what is left for us mortals? ;)
Imperfict is the best.

Posted by: meg at June 20, 2007 07:50 PM

imperfectly gorgeous ~
just as you are...
right now.

Posted by: Goddess of Leonie at June 20, 2007 06:40 PM

This couldn't be more TRUE! Thank you for bringing this up - it is always amazing how many people are in the same boat when you dare to be real--and how sometimes just *being* is divine--no brilliance, just being! It (Perfection) gets me every time and really seems to rear its head when I start and stop my lil' blog. I appreciate this insight and reminder so much. And as always adore seeing pictures of superBen!

XOX
Holly

Posted by: Holly at June 20, 2007 05:59 PM

as someone who struggles with this kind of perfectionism especially when it comes to blogging, i'd say this is a perfect post! thanks for the apt reminder, dear friend.

Posted by: jen lemen at June 20, 2007 05:50 PM

Ben really looks like you here!

Posted by: Leah at June 20, 2007 05:21 PM

Look at him sitting up on his own! Wow, that came quick...seems like he was just a squidgy little ball just last week, LOL. Too cute!

You think you have a hard time posting now...just wait until he finds putting weight on his knees and locomotion. It's everyone for themselves then, ha,ha!

Love the quote...so very true.

Posted by: amy j. at June 20, 2007 03:26 PM

Great quote - it's going up on a sticky right now.

Posted by: Frizz at June 20, 2007 02:10 PM

yes. so true. keep offering us what you've got girl...

Posted by: amy at June 20, 2007 01:58 PM

yes. so true. keep offering us what you've got girl...

Posted by: amy at June 20, 2007 01:58 PM

i needed to hear that today! perfectionism is such a disease that paralyzes. thank you!
and i LOVE my little elph too. it's the best point and shoot ever.

Posted by: maile at June 20, 2007 01:53 PM

I've heard it "Perfection is the enemy of Good".

Posted by: misti at June 20, 2007 01:16 PM

I also think perfectionism is for sissys!

How cute is Ben with his little mouth all puckered up?

Posted by: Leslie at June 20, 2007 12:56 PM

Ben is the real Canon Elf. What a beauty!

Posted by: Alesia at June 20, 2007 12:48 PM

This is a good reminder for me as I knit my wedding dress.

I'm not done and it's in two weeks... I'm not worried but I am giving up on the idea of perfection! :)

Posted by: k a t at June 20, 2007 12:43 PM

P.S. Your post today prompted me to reflect on the strangeness, yet loveliness, of cyber-connections:

http://bullseyebaby.blogspot.com/

Best,

Jena

Posted by: Jena Strong at June 20, 2007 12:23 PM

Man. Sometimes perfection is the enemy of STARTING.

Ben is beautiful. Your pictures of him kick me in the ovaries, every single time. (In the best possible way, of course. : )

Posted by: Moose at June 20, 2007 12:18 PM

love that quote from Sark. so true.

and love this adorable picture of your boy.

warm hugs to you both!

Posted by: boho girl at June 20, 2007 12:08 PM

I have the Canon Elph too and it's amazingly wonderful. It fits in the pocket and shooting video at a spur of the moment is priceless! beautiful photo of ben by the way :)

xo

Posted by: stef at June 20, 2007 11:32 AM

I have the Canon Elph too and it's amazingly wonderful. It fits in the pocket and shooting video at a spur of the moment is priceless! beautiful photo of ben by the way :)

xo

Posted by: stef at June 20, 2007 11:32 AM

Reminds me of yoga: Breathing, balancing, beginning to think... and there goes the balance. I think it's the same with writing/blogging for me, the thinking and trying are my downfalls. In fact, I'm even overthinking what to write in this comment box! Thanks for the breath of fresh air. Trying to be brilliant, inspiring, funny, and new ends up obscuring what's really here, which is your post, and this comment.

Best,

Jena

Posted by: Jena Strong at June 20, 2007 11:22 AM

Yes, I've just told my students to beware of the ideology of perfection. It's so self-damaging!

When I was in graduate school, we used to say, "The only good dissertation is a done dissertation."

Posted by: Dr. S at June 20, 2007 11:18 AM

I have just upgraded to the digital SLR and love toting that hulk around with me, though sometimes my friends glare at me when it comes out. Of course, this is coming from the girl whose friend once chided her for carrying around a "suitcase" (um, no knapsack from The Strand, thankyouverymuch) as a purse. Must carry book, notebook, and verylarge camera at all times.

Of course, your point and shoot took a very lovely picture. :) Very adorable.

Posted by: Molly at June 20, 2007 11:04 AM

Ahh...I could not feel this more personally if I tried. I am not a new mom, so I can't use that as an excuse.

I was up all night working on a project that NO ONE else wants to be PERFECT. They just want it to be GOOD ENOUGH and DONE. In my defense, that attitude is what got us into this mess, having to REdo many parts that were not nearly GOOD ENOUGH and far from PERFECT. But, really, if no one cares but me, why do I push myself so hard??

I have been completely unable to off-the-cuff on the blog for several months. I have resorted to carrying a journal that is for sketching out the blog notes...which I think defeats my purpose in the blog, that is to have a space where I can just RANT or EXPOUND and NOT worry about whether or not it is meaningful to anyone else. What happened to the sense of relief to just get if off my chest?

Tomorrow is another day, and there is actually the rest of today...so I will try again.

Posted by: Anna at June 20, 2007 10:43 AM

HA! I want that tattooed on my eyeballs! (eyelids? ok, maybe just my right hand)

Posted by: simone at June 20, 2007 10:12 AM

HA! I want that tattooed on my eyeballs! (eyelids? ok, maybe just my right hand)

Posted by: simone at June 20, 2007 10:12 AM