Playing Big by Tara Sophia Mohr + 2 kinds of fear

I met Tara Mohr for the first time when we sat together at Spirit Rock meditation center for a daylong workshop with Rachel Naomi Remen. (We are both huge fans!) I adored Tara immediately and hoped we would intersect again. To my delight, we would continue to weave into each others’ lives in the following months and years.

Tara is wise and articulate and someone you want as your teacher. She’s got smarts and soul. And lucky for us, she put all that brilliance + heart into a book, Playing Big that you can pre-order this week.

I was grateful to get my hands on an advance copy + wanted to share one of my favorite pieces of the book – a teaching about 2 kinds of fear from the late Rabbi Alan Lew. Watch the video above! then read the rest of her post below.

Congratulations Tara! This book is empowering, beautifully written and a must-read for anyone who wants to play bigger in the world.

 

As discussed in the video, Rabbi Alan Lew explains that in biblical Hebrew, there are several different words for fear.

Pachad is “projected or imagined fear,” the “fear whose objects are imagined.” That, in contemporary terms, is what we might think of as overreactive, irrational, lizard brain fear: the fear of horrible rejection that will destroy us or the fear that we will simply combust if we step out of our comfort zones.

There is a second Hebrew word for fear, yirah. Rabbi Lew describes yirah as “the fear that overcomes us when we suddenly find ourselves in possession of considerably more energy than we are used to, inhabiting a larger space than we are used to inhabiting. It is also the feeling we feel when we are on sacred ground.

If you’ve felt a calling in your heart, or uncovered an authentic dream for your life, or felt a mysterious sense of inner inspiration around a project or idea, you recognize this description.

We often conflate or confuse the two types of fear, and simply call what we are experiencing “fear.” But we can discern them more closely, and in doing so, more effectively manage fear so it doesn’t get in our way.

Next time you are in a moment that brings fear:

1. Ask yourself: what part of this fear is pachad? Write down the imagined outcomes you fear, the lizard brain fears. Remind yourself that they are just imagined, and that pachad-type fears are irrational.

2. Savor yirah. Ask yourself: what part of this fear is yirah? You’ll know yirah because it has a tinge of exhilaration and awe -while pachad has a sense of threat and panic. Lean into – and look for – the callings and leaps that bring yirah.

 

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It’s a mitzvah for others to help.

The Morning Mantras class starts next Tuesday! Click above to hear a sneak peek into the series.

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Here are the details again:

  • Every weekday for 6 weeks, you will receive a voice message in your inbox.
  • Each message will focus on a mantra designed to awaken your courage, compassion and joy.
  • It will be a morning dose of inspiration + also a jumping-off point for discussion inside the classroom.

Some sample mantras:

Turn on the f*cking faucet. (You can listen to this one here.)
Let it be simple.
Trade your fear for curiosity.

I love imagining all of us waking up together + having a cup of tea while listening to the same audio message. Let’s explore growing our courage, compassion + joy together!

$49 Class begins next Tuesday, September 2nd, 2014

 

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Morning Mantras: A brand new course!

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Are you craving deeper connection? With a tribe of superheroes?

My best work often comes to me when I am able to follow the energy that feels fresh + current for me. Right now, recording my voice has felt like the most intimate way to connect with my community (you!) and I would love to deepen the conversation.

Picture this.

  • Every weekday for 6 weeks, you will receive a voice message in your inbox.
  • Each message will focus on a mantra designed to awaken your courage, compassion and joy.
  • It will be a morning dose of inspiration + also a jumping-off point for discussion inside the classroom. (The discussion piece is optional of course, but it’s going to be juicy over there)

Some sample mantras:

Turn on the f*cking faucet. (You can listen to this one here.)
Let it be simple.
Trade your fear for curiosity.

I love imagining all of us waking up together + having a cup of tea while listening to the same audio message. Even more than that, I love the idea of us going deeper in the privacy of the classroom.

Are you ready?

$49 Class begins next Tuesday, September 2nd, 2014

 

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What do you project into the silence?

 

Today I am reading from a blog post from the archive. Something I needed to remind myself about this week.
XO Andrea

Are you craving connection? Let’s Storybowl.

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Are you craving connection?

One of the things that feeds my soul the most is to sit in a circle of women + share true stories from our lives. I often fantasized about this at parties making small talk – Can’t we just sit in a circle and get to the real stuff?? I would think. And then I would immediately assume that I was just being too intense, too scorpio, too much… So I would hunker down in the corner of the party with one person who wanted to go deep.

But then one day I had a vision – A group of women seated in a circle playing a game. A bowl of prompts would be passed around and each person would tell a true story from their life based on the prompt. It would not be about performing the perfect story but about sharing a little piece of our heart.

I have now played this game with dozens of women + it is AMAZING each and every time. We get to the REAL gracefully + easily. There is a lot of laughter and sometimes a few tears. It is always rich, always connecting, always full of compassion and ultimately healing + full of joy.

Would you like to join me? Upcoming Storybowls:

Tuesday, August 12th, 2014
$55 6-9pm (Dinner included)
Private home in Berkeley, CA

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Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
$55 6-9pm (Dinner included)
Private home in North Oakland

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Want to dive in a little deeper?

I will be co-leading a workshop on October 10th-12th, 2014 here in the Bay Area and it’s going to be FUN.
We will write, make art, eat great food, share stories, make new friends. More details on my site here!