Do you have an inner mean girl? Interview with Amy Ahlers + Andrea Scher

Is there an INNER MEAN GIRL Living in Your Head?

You know the one that fills your head with negative chatter, keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns, makes you feel like you are never quite good enough? My good friends, Amy Ahlers & Christine Arylo, call this your Inner Mean Girl. She’s the one that makes you bully and sabotage yourself. After working with over 30,000 women around the world, Amy and Christine figured out a way to transform our Inner Mean Girls – so we can stop being so hard on ourselves! And finally, their processes and tools – which are some of the most powerful (and fun!) I’ve seen – are now available in their new book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself & Start Loving Yourself.

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What archetype are you?

The first step is getting to know what kind of Inner Mean Girl you have – they’ve identified 13 different archetypes of Inner Mean Girls specific to women – including the Achievement Junkie, the Good Girl, the Comparison Queen, the Worrywart, to name a few – I can so relate. I wonder which kind you and I have?

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They created a free Inner Mean Girl Quiz to help you find your exact type of Inner Mean Girl. I invite you to take the quiz, uncover your Inner Mean Girl, try their process and stop being so hard on yourself. I’ll be taking the quiz too!

 

Put this on repeat. Get ready for the full body chills. (Kinder by Copper Wimmin)

Push play when you need a dose of self-compassion.

Conversation with Jen Louden about teaching!

 

Jennifer Louden is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the self-care movement with her first book, The Woman’s Comfort Book. She’s the author of 7 additional books on well-being and whole living and has been teaching retreats and leading workshops since 1992 and creating vibrant on-line communities and innovative learning experiences since 2000. Her current course, TeachNow, was created to help teachers – of all subjects, in all settings – thrive. Check it out here.

 

Because you need to Teach…Now

 

There is a kiss we want with our whole lives.

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There is a kiss
we want
with our whole lives.
-Rumi

Dear sweet superheroes,

It’s been a long time and I’ve missed you. My life has felt so private over the last couple of years it’s been hard to share in this space. But I’ve missed you and missed feeling connected to this community so here I am with a special message for you.

I’ve been thinking lately about our knowing. That deep, divine kind of knowing. The kind where our body tingles or we get goosebumps. The kind where we JUST KNOW and we can’t un-know it anymore. The kind that speaks to us in dreams. The kind that whispers at first and then gets really loud.

I’ve been thinking about how long we can go ignoring our own truth.

Until our body begins aching, speaking to us through pain, panic, anxiety.

A friend said to me recently, “Try this on Andrea. Is it possible that what’s best for you is actually the best for everyone else? even if they don’t like it? even if they get mad? I want you to experiment with this. Practice telling your truth: I can’t make it. That doesn’t feel like a fit for me. This is what I want. And trust that what is authentically true for you is ultimately best for everyone.”

Matt and I separated last fall.

It was the most excruciating chapter of my life. Unbearable at times. There were moments when I literally had to chant to myself, “You told the truth and you didn’t die. You’re not dead. You survived it…” The terror of speaking the truth can feel so big. I was afraid my truth would kill him. Or me.

I spoke my truth imperfectly. A bit late. As best I could. It hurt.

The lessons are wide and deep and ongoing. My love for Matt is growing and changing in unexpected ways. There are so many stories I could tell you.

But today I am present to the deep knowing I am finally beginning to honor in myself. The divine kind of knowing. The part of me (that without all the fear of troubling waters) is crystal clear.

There is a kiss we want with our whole lives.

There is a kiss I wanted with my whole life.
And it wasn’t the kind of kiss you get from a lover.
It was the kiss from Spirit.
From Myself.
It’s the kiss of living my life’s true call.
It’s the kiss of my own heart.
It’s the kiss of joy.

 

Art Before Breakfast: An interview with Danny Gregory

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DANNY GREGORY is the author of seven books, including A Kiss Before You Go: an illustrated memoir of love and loss, An Illustrated Life, The Creative License: Giving Yourself Permission to be the Artist You Truly Are, and Everyday Matters: a memoir. Tens of thousands of creative aspirants regularly visit his weblog, www.dannygregory.com. He has created illustrations for numerous books and publications and is Managing Partner and Executive Creative Director of a global ad agency. Danny lives in Greenwich Village with his miniature long-haired dachshunds, Tim and Joe.
You can pre-order Danny’s book here!