Comments on: What do you project into the silence?

By: When Life Idles…The Modern Day Meditation « Evolving Yogi

When Life Idles…The Modern Day Meditation « Evolving Yogi — Thu, 20 Sep 2012 12:28:31 +0000

[...] ago, I read this brilliant blog post from Superhero Journal “What do you project into silence?” and I was very relieved to know that someone else suffers from the same ailment that I do, what [...]

By: Friday Best « Coffee & Sunshine

Friday Best « Coffee & Sunshine — Sat, 12 May 2012 21:17:03 +0000

[...] Superhero Journal: what do you project into silence? This could have been written by [...]

By: Weekly Internet Finds: Take 7

Weekly Internet Finds: Take 7 — Fri, 11 May 2012 14:10:26 +0000

[...] also love this post on Superhero Journal about internalizing the lack of response we get from people. I am definitely guilty of this. [...]

By: Allison

Allison — Tue, 08 May 2012 18:59:27 +0000

First, thank you for your vulnerability. You consistently offer so much insight and wisdom, and when someone as amazing as you shares a moment of weakness, I don’t feel so alone! Second, yes, I have been there many times, projecting into the silence…and it’s amazing how most of the time it isn’t at all what I thought! Much love

By: Only a few more days til Mother’s Day! – Superhero Journal

Only a few more days til Mother’s Day! – Superhero Journal — Tue, 08 May 2012 17:30:15 +0000

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By: CoraD

CoraD — Wed, 02 May 2012 19:26:21 +0000

One more thought – I really like that your friend acknowledged your pain and didn’t try to whisk it away or trivialize it. Sometimes things are painful and the best thing you can do for yourself or others is acknowledge that it is indeed painful.

My pain, of late, that I’ve been trying to avoid is summed up by this quote: “We have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in our hearts, even if they don’t stay in our lives.” The people not in my life didn’t die, they just aren’t a part of my life anymore. And it hurts, a lot, that they aren’t there and that I can’t or won’t change that fact. Now, I have to embrace that sadness.

By: CoraD

CoraD — Wed, 02 May 2012 19:23:00 +0000

Thank you. I really appreciate you sharing this, for many reasons. I often idolize the bloggers I read and it’s so comforting to hear that I am not alone in my struggles. And it helps me have compassion for myself, since I’m given proof it’s not just silly ol’ Cora who does these things.

I had an epiphany the other day, when in the midst of obsessive, anxiety frought thoughts, this thought floated to the top: “which fire are you feeding?” Meaning, am I feeding the anxiety fire or the peace fire? The fire that sustains, warms, brightens or the fire that weakens, confuses, panics? And I realized I wanted to be feeding the peace fire and to change my thoughts. It was such an empowering realization – mainly because it gives me a choice.

It’s also helping me work on accepting that the anxiety fire is there, always has been and might always will be. And that’s all right. Both fires serve their purposes and I imagine, on occasion, I’ll want to feed the anxiety fire.

So, thanks.

By: You got to know when to fold em’ « gotcurls

You got to know when to fold em’ « gotcurls — Tue, 01 May 2012 01:36:57 +0000

[...] I had even emailed them I had a story in my head. They were going to be disappointed. (BTW, for a great article on making up stories in your head, check out this post… [...]

By: Liz C.

Liz C. — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 14:17:59 +0000

I so know this place!! Your post inspired mine for this week: http://enjoyandlove.blogspot.com/2012/04/i-love-everything-andrea-scher-writes.html

Thank you!!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 08:19:03 +0000

Do I ever do this?! This is the only thing I ever do in that situation.

And no, I can’t just sit with the idea of someone being unhappy with me at all. I must fix it! Fix it by hassling them more!