- When you wake up, a little too composed, and wonder why you’re holding it together so well.
- When you make your coffee, three times this morning, and wonder why it still doesn’t taste right.
- When you find yourself shouting, full of rage, at the top of your lungs to your kids, Everyone needs to stop whining or I am gonna (insert expletive) lose it!!!
- When songs with words, any words at all, are too much for your heart to take.
- When kindness, any small kindness, feels huge and poignant and goes straight to your heart.
- When you’re afraid someone is going to ask you, while looking you in the eyes, how you’re doing.
Without going into too much detail, I’ll just say that our thanksgiving holiday was more eventful than I had hoped. We spent much of it in the hospital with a family member and just generally holding the weight of the world on our shoulders.
Maybe this is you.
If it is, please know that we are in this together.
That we are connected, that you are not alone.
That the very best thing you can possibly do is cry. That crying is softening and cleansing.
Maybe you will cry reading this, or maybe a good friend will ask you how you are.
Let them comfort you.
Let that song bring you to tears.
Remember that whatever our circumstances are, however different, we are all in the same soup.
We are all connected in our grief and in our joy. Somehow this comforts me.